Feedback Horror Stories
Many of the things that we talk about in Write to Publish is feedback. And within that favorite topic are feedback horror stories. Many writers come to me and say that they feel like nobody really gets their writing and getting feedback on the wrong things. They get to a feedback situation wanting input on one thing but getting input on another–and worse, on things not as important or meaningful as the content of their writing.
This happens for so many writers and it hurts people and their writing. There is also a possibility that it can hurt your brain, which I wrote extensively about in my book. Getting the wrong kind of feedback at the wrong time can reprogram the neural pathways of your brain. So yes, there are consequences to getting bad feedback.
I heard lots of stories about personal attacks that people have suffered because people were jealous of their writing, or they didn’t understand their writing, or simply because they just gave bad feedback. I’ve also heard about people who wrote a ridiculous number of pages simply because they had inconsistent feedback and they weren’t sure what to do.
Here is a dating analogy. Let’s say I just love to date bad boys but keep wondering why they’re so bad for me. Or that I only date selfish people and keep wondering why they’re so selfish. This is the same with writing. Many writers keep getting bad feedback from beta readers, other writers, and other people but never get themselves out of that pattern. What these writers have to do is change. What they need is to experience real and positive feedback–which is something that they’ve never experienced before–that can help their writing careers.
It doesn’t have to be a feedback horror story. In the Writing Gym salons, we give you feedback that boosts your confidence and inspires your writing. We give feedback based on neuroscience. One of the things that I wrote about in my book is that your brain was intended to function in a certain way.
Let’s say that your knees and elbows only bend one way. You know this fact yet you want to run a marathon. You won’t be able to run that marathon because your body parts weren’t meant to do things like that. Your brain functions in the same way. If you’re in a writing group that utilizes beta readers that is the equivalent of my marathon analogy.
If you would like to know what it’s like to be in a feedback situation in a group where you’re optimizing your brain’s natural function then I’d love to speak with you.